Many of the young people call it "Hanging out together" and claim that it has nothing to do with love or affection--so they claim.I would say that once it becomes apparent, to any member of the church, that another member/attendee is becoming involved in a romantic and/or love relationship with an unbeliever, that they must go to the person as step one of the Matthew 18 process, and then follow the rest of the process if necessary."Here at Grace, we believe that the Bible teaches that believers should only marry other believers. Thus, we would strongly discourage any believer from pursuing a dating relationship with a non-believer.But have you ever thought about the unfairness of shackling an unbeliever to heavenly goals, when they may not be able to one day reap the heavenly rewards?In other words, if you are holding steadfast to boundaries that protect your purity and pastimes that honor the Lord, your unbelieving boyfriend or girlfriend is being forced under the law when grace to follow God has not yet been granted to them.
Sometimes that means skipping out on momentary happiness and potentially hurt feelings, understanding that following God does not lead to disaster in the long run but offers life and ultimate blessing ahead.I have not seen any Church apply church discipline to the dating of non-believers.I suppose because it's hard to define "dating" these days.In keeping with Matthew 18, we would confront a believer who is involved that an "unequally-yoked" dating relationship.If they refused to repent (and terminate the relationship), we would continue down the path of church discipline.
The movement of a human soul toward the eternal freedom found in Christ is a fragile process.