People wrestle with how they got caught up in something that is so damaging. " Does it matter WHAT someone is looking at or does it just matter that someone is looking at something?Their partners wrestle with whether or not to forgive these transgressions. Some people have no issues with what they consider "normal" photos such as a tasteful nude photo. Others look the other way so long as their partner isn't asking them to engage in anything they think is too weird or wild.When I counsel couples, I always make it clear that each person is responsible for their own behavior.If you are surfing the web for the anonymous participant in your wild sexual fantasies, you can't blame it on your partner's unwillingness to fulfill your needs.If keeping your partner requires dismissing your standards, you may need to rethink your partner, not your standards. If you think that even a small amount of flirtation through text is cheating, that is also a reasonable conclusion.If you have broken up a relationship due to these issues, you need to make sure you know what you stand for, otherwise - as Eleanor Roosevelt said - you'll fall for anything. Some readers may ask how both can be reasonable conclusions. Whatever your position, you don't have to rationalize it or justify it and no one has the right to tell you that you're being silly or uptight.I've counseled couples where one partner wants to do things that the other refuses to do.As explained in , you have 3 choices: accept it, change it or leave.
Every day people are caught sexting or engaging in other behavior their partner objects to.
There is a fairly large distinction between fathering a child with another woman while married and flirting with a coworker in texts.
There is a fairly large distinction between hiring prostitutes and typing out sexual fantasies to an anonymous internet chat room There may even be a distinction between porn addiction (while in a relationship) and sexting (while in a relationship) and some might say they're all the same.
Every day hearts are broken when illicit behavior comes to light.
Every day people become confused over their own behavior or their partners.